Josh Part 1
It has been almost 19 years to the day since a nice kid from my English class asked me out on a date. I never could have imagined the life we have together now. I am grateful for him every day. My very favorite thing about him is how good he is at listening. He can sit and actively listen to whatever I need or want to say and then he will either empathize and tell me how much he loves me or help me work though the situation. Usually just saying it out loud is enough for me to be able to let go and move on and I appreciate that he has never criticized my feelings or made me feel dumb or cut me off. It is an incredible gift and what connected us right away. Even after our first date we talked on the phone for almost an hour and that led to hundreds of more hours spent on the phone. When we were living in different states and even different countries, we still talked on the phone just about every day and often for lengthy periods of time. My day would feel incomplete if I hadn't told him about it.
I feel safe with him. I can admit the darkest secrets of my soul and he still loves me. He rarely gets angry and even the few times I've seen him really upset, his way to deal with it is to go somewhere to be alone. Half an hour later and he's fine. I've never heard him raise his voice in anger and I've seen him cry over an emotional movie. He is strong and can get fiercely competitive but is always able to stay in control. I admire him for being that kind of a man.
The very hardest experiences in my life have been delivering children into this world and there wasn't anyone I wanted by my side except Josh. He held my hand through all four deliveries, telling me I could do it, helping me maintain focus, calming me down when I was losing my mind, anxious to get whatever I needed and helping me appreciate the wonder of it all. I can still hear the awe in his voice each time the baby was out and how amazed he was that I had done it and that we had a new child. I am grateful for his steadiness and his ability to understand emotion without necessarily getting wrapped up in it.
We're almost always on the same page, especially when it comes to important things, and that is a gift for which I'm grateful. He completely supports me in my role as wife and mother and honors the contributions I make to our family. We've had a total of one fight about money and food was involved (I was hungry) so it was actually a fight about food which sounds silly but an important lesson for Josh to learn and a mistake he's not made again (make sure I don't get too hungry, especially when discussing important things).
Right after we got married we spent three days at a cabin on one of the Finger Lakes in New York. One day we walked around the cute little town there and I wanted to get a picnic basket as a souvenir. I love going on picnics and thought it would be fun to have one. Josh however disagreed. He reminded me that neither of us had jobs at the moment and we only had a finite amount of money for the time being, plus he doesn't like going on picnics. So we didn't get one and I was disappointed. Thirteen years later, and after having been teased about not getting my picnic basket on our honeymoon because he was too cheap to buy his bride a gift, I got a picnic basket for my birthday. More than anything I love the sentiment that he wanted to erase my disappointment and redeem himself a bit, even just for something that was a joke between us. He is very thoughtful and sweet and I'm grateful to spend each day with him.
I feel safe with him. I can admit the darkest secrets of my soul and he still loves me. He rarely gets angry and even the few times I've seen him really upset, his way to deal with it is to go somewhere to be alone. Half an hour later and he's fine. I've never heard him raise his voice in anger and I've seen him cry over an emotional movie. He is strong and can get fiercely competitive but is always able to stay in control. I admire him for being that kind of a man.
The very hardest experiences in my life have been delivering children into this world and there wasn't anyone I wanted by my side except Josh. He held my hand through all four deliveries, telling me I could do it, helping me maintain focus, calming me down when I was losing my mind, anxious to get whatever I needed and helping me appreciate the wonder of it all. I can still hear the awe in his voice each time the baby was out and how amazed he was that I had done it and that we had a new child. I am grateful for his steadiness and his ability to understand emotion without necessarily getting wrapped up in it.
We're almost always on the same page, especially when it comes to important things, and that is a gift for which I'm grateful. He completely supports me in my role as wife and mother and honors the contributions I make to our family. We've had a total of one fight about money and food was involved (I was hungry) so it was actually a fight about food which sounds silly but an important lesson for Josh to learn and a mistake he's not made again (make sure I don't get too hungry, especially when discussing important things).
Right after we got married we spent three days at a cabin on one of the Finger Lakes in New York. One day we walked around the cute little town there and I wanted to get a picnic basket as a souvenir. I love going on picnics and thought it would be fun to have one. Josh however disagreed. He reminded me that neither of us had jobs at the moment and we only had a finite amount of money for the time being, plus he doesn't like going on picnics. So we didn't get one and I was disappointed. Thirteen years later, and after having been teased about not getting my picnic basket on our honeymoon because he was too cheap to buy his bride a gift, I got a picnic basket for my birthday. More than anything I love the sentiment that he wanted to erase my disappointment and redeem himself a bit, even just for something that was a joke between us. He is very thoughtful and sweet and I'm grateful to spend each day with him.
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